My queerness is not built around an idea it is built around a life. When i hear "being gay isn't about the sex" i say FUCK THAT. The fucking just makes people uncomfortable...try convincing a straight vanilla type that asexual is a thing and you will see all the sex or none of it elicits remarkably similar responses....my queerness, my identity, my politics, is absolutely about who i fuck and how i fuck.
i prefer to fuck people with vaginas and i prefer to get hit while i do it. My politics don't stop at the bedroom door they invite you in and tie you to a fucking chair. i believe in pain and the reward and freedom of submission...i believe sex work is sacred work...i know i am better, stronger, braver because of the bruises i have begged for and worn with pride.
My identity won't pretend that the collar i wear is a fucking necklace or some fashion statement. My politics won't let me sit by and be told that the things that turn me on are just tools of oppression. My queerness fits me like jeans under chaps because i am a kinky pervert not in spite of it.
